Life Lessons: A Scraped Knee Hurts
My daughter was having a clumsy day. Her petite frame flew from the trampoline at gymnastics and she managed to hit her face against the carpeted wall. I went onto the floor. The coach handed her off to me. She was in tears, and for a moment inconsolable. I talked in her ear, rubbed her back and rocked her.
“I’m sorry sweetheart. Let me see your face.”
There was no bruising, no blood, no major damage, though hitting your face against a wall hurts!
My plan was not just to console her, but to find a way to help her get back out there and finish well. God knows that’s a lesson we all need. When life hands you a lemon…
“Honey, do you want a drink of water?”
She shook her head yes.
After a quick drink at the water fountain, I went from consoling mode to coaching mode. “Okay, sweetheart. You’re all better. Go on back and have fun.”
I had to walk her back half way and give her a little nudge forward. She sullenly walked over to her group, and I turned my back and walked away.
If I had skipped consoling, I would have been harsh and unempathetic. We do this as adults all the time to other adults. We forget that at that moment, a scraped knee hurts. We are all given various trials that are legit trials for us. We aren’t all the same. Sometimes it’s not about comparing your scraped knee to someone else’s broken arm. That trial, like all trials is there for a reason. There is something specific for YOU to learn from it.
If I had skipped coaching, I would have fallen into another trap. Come on, girl. Get back up! Lord knows, life keeps going. We can’t let trials keep us down forever. We can’t be a good parent or friend without helping someone move forward.
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4
This verse doesn’t mean we smile and ignore. We have to acknowledge the trial in whatever form it comes. Maybe shed a lot of tears. It is a trial after all, and perseverance isn’t easy. But if we walk through the process, we will be able to count it as joy because God has worked it together for our good.
If anything, we’ll know we can make it through the next trial. We don’t have to be limited by fear of failure. And like my petite girl, after some empathetic consoling we’ll be able to jump on!
Ashley Soden is the director of Write/Create, Inc. She is currently writing her first novel. When she's not writing, she's living life to the full with her husband and three energetic kids. You may also find her making drinks at Starbucks.